idk thinking about how sometimes you have to show up for people you aren’t that close to, because sometimes you’re just the person who’s there. sometimes you invite a new friend to a party and end up having to sit with them through a panic attack. sometimes you run into an acquaintance on their worst day and they need to talk about what happened. sometimes someone is crying in a stairwell and you’re the only one around to ask if they’re okay. and none of this is “trauma dumping” or whatever the fuck it’s just being there for people because you’re the one in the room with them.
The more resolved your own traumas become, the more full your own life, the more stable your relationships, the less you will feel unbalanced by the needs of others, the more you will be able to turn to a stranger in a crisis and be the unexpected grace that helps them survive the moment they’re in.
Going to see children and adolescents dance badly, play ball badly, sing badly, play recorder badly because they are young: YES! YOU ARE LEARNING! INCREDIBLE!
People are so rude about going to watch the children in their lives do stuff shittily. “Ugh toddler dance recital,” “ugh tee-ball weekend again,” “ugh nativity play.”
That guy learned what skipping is this year and now he’s playing the piano the worst I’ve ever seen but the best he’s ever done! AREN’T YOU CAPTIVATED BY THEIR ABILITY TO DO A LITTLE BIT WHEN PREVIOUSLY THEY COULD DO NOTHING? Be filled with wonder and joy!
“Two years in a row my dad has been visited by a couple of ducks. They nest and lay eggs in the garden and have successfully raised ducklings each year. This is him preparing for this years brood.”
“Two years in a row my dad has been visited by a couple of ducks. They nest and lay eggs in the garden and have successfully raised ducklings each year. This is him preparing for this years brood.”
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