holding yourself accountable and tearing yourself down are two different things
how to do it (asking seriously)
be aware of what you’ve done wrong. forgive yourself and learn from it rather than beating yourself up over it and thinking it’s just a part of you that can’t be changed. know that you can’t go back and undo it but also that in the future you can do better and not repeat the same regret. self hatred stemming from regret is hard to control, but it can be managed with patience and practice.
DON’T focus on:
- how guilty you feel
- how much punishment you deserve
DO focus on:
- how to prevent it from happening again
- how to make amends
amhrancas 