“women can wear pants now. they can dress masc and it’s fine”
body hair is seen as disgusting and wrong and sick and “too masc” on a woman still. Did we just forget that?
not wearing makeup as a woman can prevent you from getting hired.
this is absolutely ridiculous
I didn’t think that you’d have to calmly explain to other trans people that regular misogyny still exists and is a serious problem
My ex was forced to depilate by her mother, and the people at the beauty place who did the wax depilation were apparently mad at me for not caring about whether or not she had body hair.
It very much is still a problem.
In 2013, before I came out, before I was on T, when I had only the kind of hair on my face that gamer bros complain about re: girl characters, I had a (young) woman at the nail salon point at my face and tell me I needed to wax my whole face, or at least my upper lip and chin.
She didn’t work there. She just felt like randomly telling another (presumed) woman that the completely transparent, shortest physically possible hair on my cheeks was Too Much.
I got more than one Official Talking To at Wachovia/Wells Fargo bc my suits were too masculine in cut, my haircut was too masculine (and had i considered getting highlights?), and I didn’t wear, or didn’t wear enough, makeup. These were all framed as Coaching, as an attempt to help me present myself in a way that would help me to advance my career (and as someone gently telling me that these things were currently very much in the way of my career).
So… yeah.
amhrancas 