busket:

hey, trans men. especially the younger ones. I love when you embrace the grungy teenage dirtbag aesthetic, I think it’s very cool. love that you’re not holding yourselves to societal standards of what it means to be a real man and you decide what your own masculinity looks like. thats wonderful. but you cant reclaim “incel”. stay away from that word.

i know time moves fast and some of you might be too young to remember, but incel doesn’t just mean “loser who can’t get a date” incels were the very beginning of the alt right movement. we’re taking about men who are violently misogynistic and racist. they fantasized about rape and mass murder to punish the girls that wouldn’t date them, and many of them did it. these are men that believed in eugenics, and thought their skull shape was the reason women wouldn’t date them, or that women were subhuman animals that only view things from an evolutionary perspective of who would make an ideal “mate”.

“but i can reclaim a term used against men” you do not want to reclaim a name that a group of bigots gave to themselves. incels came up with the word “incel” and proudly wore that title. you cant call yourself an incel and expect the meaning to change and for people to not make assumptions about your values based on that word. this is not a term you want to associate with when you talk about embracing your masculinity as a transgender man, okay?

peace and love -a trans man in his 30s