idk thinking about how sometimes you have to show up for people you aren’t that close to, because sometimes you’re just the person who’s there. sometimes you invite a new friend to a party and end up having to sit with them through a panic attack. sometimes you run into an acquaintance on their worst day and they need to talk about what happened. sometimes someone is crying in a stairwell and you’re the only one around to ask if they’re okay. and none of this is “trauma dumping” or whatever the fuck it’s just being there for people because you’re the one in the room with them.
The more resolved your own traumas become, the more full your own life, the more stable your relationships, the less you will feel unbalanced by the needs of others, the more you will be able to turn to a stranger in a crisis and be the unexpected grace that helps them survive the moment they’re in.
amhrancas 